#tbt to our first time seeing each other all summer, and thoughts on long distance love

Okay okay so it's not Thursday. WHATEVA

 

These aren't the most photogenic pics ever. Nope nope. But they're still some of my favorite photos of us because they commemorate our first long-term reunion after being away from each other all school year. Believe it or not, the first year I went off to college and away from Mister Mario went pretty smoothly. At one point I actually thought to myself, "Man, long distance relationships are so much easier than people make them out to be!" 

*cue infinite amounts of ironic laughter*

Long distance relationships deserve their bad rep. Not being able to share as much of your life with each other as you'd like to can be... a lot. It all comes down to trust and communication—and I hate how cliche that sounds, but cliches are cliche for a reason! It's hard to make your significant other really feel loved and appreciated, even when you're on polar opposite sides of New York. (Who told New York it was okay to be so much bigger than people expect it to be?)

But to those who say that long distance relationships are impossible, I say—with all due respect—BS.  They're not impossible so long as you're both willing to work twice as hard for each other. Even when people tell you that this is the time of your life to explore what's out there. Mario was/is my first boyfriend. But as poet Shane Koyczan once wrote: "You were the choice I made before I knew what the other choices were." It's all worth it because he's worth it. KnowhatI'msayin?

Anyway, Mario's been in Virginia with his friends all weekend. He better come home to me safely, that one. Since we spend so much of the year apart, summer is our time to be with each other as much as humanly possible. I'm really thankful to be with someone who has me craving his company so often, even after almost two and half years together. We may have had some of our hardest few months this past school year, but we got through 'em like champs.

Onwards and upwards.

Sticks 'n Noodles ('n chicken adobo)

In which my beautiful familia flocks to a new Filipino restaurant that opened up in OC:

     

The menu was a bit limited, mostly noodles and pork/chicken on a stick (huh I wonder why?), but thank goodness they had chicken adobo as one of their specials today. You know how satisfying it feels when you eat something that was exactly what you wanted, but didn't realize until you ate it? Sigh.

Sometime after her first chemo session, my mama moved on from crocheting to her latest craft obsesssion: rubber band looming. Or loom banding, whatever the kids are calling it. That little buddy up there is Kerropi, one of Hello Kitty's pals, and he took more time to make than I'd like to imagine. 

At one point another crew of Filipinos came in and sat behind us, so of course it wasn't long before my parents had exchanged names and phone numbers with them. That's one thing I love about Filipinos: when they meet, they're bound to start chatting like they've known each other for a while.

crying and smiling: it's been a weird week

This past week I got: 1. laid off via text message, and 2. dumped (platonically) via letter. I cried in a Panera at one point. And crying-induced headaches? That's definitely a thing.

I should probably point out that me crying = not a particularly rare phenomenon. If I haven't cried over something silly in a few weeks, life is going TOO well I think. Crying's good! It's...healthy! (Someone please find the research to back me up on this.) If I get upset relatively often, Mario says that's just because I "live harder." When I'm happy, I'm HAPPY, and when I'm sad, I'm crushed. I don't actually mind that thought. Live openly, even if it means occasional disappointment, that's me motto. I should probably get shorter mottos.

The way this past week was going, I kept hoping that life would send me a little victory, just a teensy something (and no, the pumpkin ice cream that I bought in bulk the other day from my favorite ice cream shop does not count). And it did! Or God did, maybe. And that teensy something gets to join my list of....

"5 Things That Made Me Smile This Week" 

or "Stress the Small Stuff" 

or "Distractions From a Slightly Awful Week":

1. Impulse-buying some of my favorite childhood candies

This is what I get for strolling into a Five Below for the first time in ages. I knew there was a reason I stopped going in there. As you can see, I didn't get into chocolate until middle school. 

20 year-old Vanessa's impressions: Air Head Xtremes, not as good as I remember them. Baby Bottle Pop, TWICE as good as I remember it. (Gotta say, though, not digging the new Blow Pop wrapper design. The old ones have a certain charm to them. But I do love fact that they have a raspberry flavor now, as it seems I want raspberry-flavored everything these days.)

2. Nina Simone's cover of "Here Comes the Sun"

I heard this for the first time while driving to Mario's a few days ago during that glowy time of evening, when the sun kind of gently filters in. I was LIVIN for the piano solo at 2:12. It just makes me so happy, how it sounds like an ice cream truck tune for a few seconds and jumps all over the keyboard.

3. Getting my class requirements list from my study abroad program

It wasn't very long, and it doesn't sound like we need to really buy any books?

One of the items was "a willing body and soul." So... I think acting school is going to be great slash potentially weird. But great.

4. The fact that these things exist

 

I went thrifting with Molly this past Saturday, and BOY oh boy. That little number on the left, the one from Victoria's Secret? It's hard to see clearly, but that is indeed a black button down shirt body suit. Except the bottom of the body suit is a sheer thong. That is office wear and lingerie at the same time. Because the world needed this.

The crop top on the right needs no explaining. Leopard print on top of roses on top of cute kitten. Molly and I giggled over the fact that the brand on the label is called "Self Esteem."

5. Annnd last but not least, a little bit of news in my inbox...

I don't want to get my hopes up, of course, but just being a finalist in a national scholarship competition for Asian artists is really, really cool. More news on how this all turns out in the coming weeks. In the meantime, yaaaaayasjf;oiajwe;fawj!

I wrote it on my tumblr, and I'll write it again: when life gives you lemons, cry a little. Then cry some more, and maybe buy some ice cream and candy (don't eat it all at once). Listen to good music. Listen to Nina Simone when she sings that "it's all right." Rinse and repeat.

Recently Bought / Recently Watched

Bag - ESPRIT (thrifted)  //  Shorts - Madewell (thrifted) 

Scored a preppy little bag and floral cutoffs last week, along with some other goods. Thrift shops are on the few-and-far-between side here in my corner of South Jersey, and we're not the MOST fashion-forward part of the state, but now and then you find unexpected brands.

I realize now that I can thank one person for everything pictured in my bag below. Mario is not only my best/boy friend of over two years, but also my most trusted authority on television and movies. He's consumed an intimidating amount of media. Thus he has an impressive DVD/Blu-Ray/Criterion collection which I dip into regularly. (Side brag: I think he should try to be IN one of those TV shows and movies he watches so much because he's a veddy talented actor. And future psychiatrist. Maybe he can be both at the same time! Like...an actor who plays a doctor.)

As for the little brown book tucked next to Pacific Rim, the one that looks like a mini Bible? That's actually an iPhone case Mario bought me last Christmas. You know it's love when he can buy gifts you didn't even know you wanted.



Sherlock, as many fans noticed, bordered on the ridiculous this season. ALL the fan service, everywhere. But! I still found lots of it entertaining (though not mind-blowing). The mind palace sequences got a cool upgrade--I really love the one from His Last Vow--and the production quality remains high. Some sequences are definitely overproduced though. I really loved the way they integrated Mary into the story all around, and Lars Mikkelsen was fabulously unsettling as Augustus Magnussen. He has a quieter energy than Moriarty--different, but equally terrifying.

On the other hand, I'm still surprised by how much I enjoyed Pacific Rim. Watched it twice in one week. And I don't usually go for sci-fi when I'm craving fantasy. It's fun, well-directed, and it even has a sense of humor. Charlie Day's in it! Exclamation point necessary because he just makes me happy in general. (Such little man. Such high voice. He's what I imagine a chipmunk would be like in human form.) Plus, it wasn't too scary or gory for Vanessa to handle; I can be an annoyingly delicate flower when it comes to film/TV. Yes, a few moments made me roll my eyes--usually line deliveries from the otherwise-fine male lead AND Heath-Ledger-doppleganger, Charlie Hunnam. Most importantly, it features strong, complicated Asian female lead played by Academy Award nominee Rinko Kikuchi. She manages to be a total cutie and fierce mofo all at once. Can't wait to see what else she does.